Men speak out on circumcision
Men speak out on circumcision
Beatrice Tonhodzayi
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For two weeks running we have been touching on the hot subject of adult male circumcision and how it has been found to be effective at cutting in half chances of a man getting infected with HIV during heterosexual sex.
The responses from readers have been wide and ranging but the most encouraging thing has been the fact that men, for so long viewed as a species, which does not want to open up, which is stubborn and hesitant to accept other view points- have really opened up on this subject- showing a willingness to open up to new ideas, especially if they may change life for the better.
Opening up about HIV and AIDS issues has helped us in the long run. It has led to more and more people realizing the need to get tested and know their status. Some of those that test positive are living positively and in some cases are now on treatment while those that test negative are trying to maintain their HIV negative status (I hope so.)
That is the reason I have decided to dedicate this piece to giving voices to our men out there, so they speak out on what they think and feel about male circumcision, something that very few men this side of the globe consider as important.
Now that low levels of male circumcision are being linked to our highly alarming HIV statistics in Southern Africa- let us see what our men have to say.
Some, as I expected wanted to know whether “my man” is circumcised or not and suggested that I get him circumcised before I advocate that they do the same. Other circumcised men said it was naughty to suggest that uncircumcised men performed better than them as this would lead to their partners leaving them to search for uncircumcised men.
People, people we miss the point. The point is informing each other of what latest findings say, and how we can use these findings to help ourselves. It is not about me encouraging men to go and get circumcised so they don’t get HIV at all for that is not so. It is about getting information to them so they can make informed decisions should they wish to.
It is not true that once a man gets circumcised, he will never get HIV, NO WAY. If a man goes around like a bird that lands everywhere, he is bound to land in murky waters at some point so be warned. Circumcision is just like a condom, which helps reduce the risk of transmission but is not a guarantee against HIV infection so before men just go for circumcision en masse thinking it is a license for irresponsibility- they should know why they are going for it.
One of our readers Fani wrote: “I have followed your articles about male circumcision and agree with men who are circumcised that, it is indeed a smart thing to do. Apart from reducing HIV infection and other niggling infections as indicated by research, my observation is that it gives a man complete control over his sexuality and gives endurance which translate to multiple orgasms for the female partner.
Ngoni had this to say” People should just turn to God and read the Bible I have recently been born again and been reading the Bible, and read recently this Chapter - Genesis 17:9-14 which says: “Then God said to Abraham, "As for you, you must keep my covenant, you and your descendants after you for the generations to come. This is my covenant with you and your descendants after you, the covenant you are to keep: Every male among you shall be circumcised.
You are to undergo circumcision, and it will be the sign of the covenant between you and me. For the generations to come every male among you who is eight days old must be circumcised, including those born in your household or bought with money from a foreigner - those who are not your offspring. Whether born in your household or bought with money, they must be circumcised. My covenant in your flesh is to be an everlasting covenant. Any uncircumcised male, who has not been circumcised in the flesh, will be cut off from his people; he has broken my covenant," he said.
A reader who preferred anonymity writing from South Africa had this to say: “I personally think it is a good thing to be circumcised and it should be done when children are still young, they will be grateful. My family is from Dembaremba in Honde Valley and from the great grandfathers to my generation we were all circumcised during the first five weeks of birth. I went to a boarding school, Marlborough High School and there, almost, everyone was inspired by my circumcision.
I am really happy that my parents thought of doing this and am grateful to them for such a blessing. By the way, in case other dudes are worried, SA chicks, especially Xhosas and Cape Coloreds like circumcised dudes, he said. Another reader writing from South Africa had this to say: “I am 33 years old male and went voluntarily through the procedure at the Avenues some seven years ago when I was 26 years.
The talk was already there amongst Canadian scientists that circumcision in males could reduce the transmission rate of HIV. So being the visionary that I was, I contacted Dr Raju at Baines and I got circumcised. I found it to be very hygienic. The foreskin is cauldron of bacteria because it is moist. So I can guarantee you that an uncircumcised penis is very difficult to keep clean. Women too are exposed to lots of yeast infections due to the bacteria kept in the folds of the foreskin.
I have not noticed any adverse difference in my enjoyment of sex since circumcision. One thing for sure is that my drawers don’t smell and they are clean. I have a four -ear old son and I am definitely going to have him go through the procedure. Keep the good work.’
Others like Simba wanted to know where to go to get it done. “Which doctors would you suggest I go see and can I know if I will heal quickly for I do not want to go for two months of pain without any activity?”
Micheal Krafft, A Kenyan who has been circumcised for years however had this warning: “I think we all realize that the problems are enormous and will take more people understanding and learning about HIV in schools and in clinics for it to start subsiding. I would not want anyone to think that getting circumcised is as good as using protection. It is a little similar to people thinking that if they are riding in a jeep or landrover that they will be safe in a car crash...the key is to drive safely and not get in a car crash.”
So so true and as a parting shot- I could not have summed it up better myself.
Circumcised or uncircumcised however- be responsible and protect yourself. And do not shut your mind to circumcision men- it is worth thinking seriously about.
Till next time, get me on beatrice@safaids.org.zw
Beatrice Tonhodzayi
**************
For two weeks running we have been touching on the hot subject of adult male circumcision and how it has been found to be effective at cutting in half chances of a man getting infected with HIV during heterosexual sex.
The responses from readers have been wide and ranging but the most encouraging thing has been the fact that men, for so long viewed as a species, which does not want to open up, which is stubborn and hesitant to accept other view points- have really opened up on this subject- showing a willingness to open up to new ideas, especially if they may change life for the better.
Opening up about HIV and AIDS issues has helped us in the long run. It has led to more and more people realizing the need to get tested and know their status. Some of those that test positive are living positively and in some cases are now on treatment while those that test negative are trying to maintain their HIV negative status (I hope so.)
That is the reason I have decided to dedicate this piece to giving voices to our men out there, so they speak out on what they think and feel about male circumcision, something that very few men this side of the globe consider as important.
Now that low levels of male circumcision are being linked to our highly alarming HIV statistics in Southern Africa- let us see what our men have to say.
Some, as I expected wanted to know whether “my man” is circumcised or not and suggested that I get him circumcised before I advocate that they do the same. Other circumcised men said it was naughty to suggest that uncircumcised men performed better than them as this would lead to their partners leaving them to search for uncircumcised men.
People, people we miss the point. The point is informing each other of what latest findings say, and how we can use these findings to help ourselves. It is not about me encouraging men to go and get circumcised so they don’t get HIV at all for that is not so. It is about getting information to them so they can make informed decisions should they wish to.
It is not true that once a man gets circumcised, he will never get HIV, NO WAY. If a man goes around like a bird that lands everywhere, he is bound to land in murky waters at some point so be warned. Circumcision is just like a condom, which helps reduce the risk of transmission but is not a guarantee against HIV infection so before men just go for circumcision en masse thinking it is a license for irresponsibility- they should know why they are going for it.
One of our readers Fani wrote: “I have followed your articles about male circumcision and agree with men who are circumcised that, it is indeed a smart thing to do. Apart from reducing HIV infection and other niggling infections as indicated by research, my observation is that it gives a man complete control over his sexuality and gives endurance which translate to multiple orgasms for the female partner.
Ngoni had this to say” People should just turn to God and read the Bible I have recently been born again and been reading the Bible, and read recently this Chapter - Genesis 17:9-14 which says: “Then God said to Abraham, "As for you, you must keep my covenant, you and your descendants after you for the generations to come. This is my covenant with you and your descendants after you, the covenant you are to keep: Every male among you shall be circumcised.
You are to undergo circumcision, and it will be the sign of the covenant between you and me. For the generations to come every male among you who is eight days old must be circumcised, including those born in your household or bought with money from a foreigner - those who are not your offspring. Whether born in your household or bought with money, they must be circumcised. My covenant in your flesh is to be an everlasting covenant. Any uncircumcised male, who has not been circumcised in the flesh, will be cut off from his people; he has broken my covenant," he said.
A reader who preferred anonymity writing from South Africa had this to say: “I personally think it is a good thing to be circumcised and it should be done when children are still young, they will be grateful. My family is from Dembaremba in Honde Valley and from the great grandfathers to my generation we were all circumcised during the first five weeks of birth. I went to a boarding school, Marlborough High School and there, almost, everyone was inspired by my circumcision.
I am really happy that my parents thought of doing this and am grateful to them for such a blessing. By the way, in case other dudes are worried, SA chicks, especially Xhosas and Cape Coloreds like circumcised dudes, he said. Another reader writing from South Africa had this to say: “I am 33 years old male and went voluntarily through the procedure at the Avenues some seven years ago when I was 26 years.
The talk was already there amongst Canadian scientists that circumcision in males could reduce the transmission rate of HIV. So being the visionary that I was, I contacted Dr Raju at Baines and I got circumcised. I found it to be very hygienic. The foreskin is cauldron of bacteria because it is moist. So I can guarantee you that an uncircumcised penis is very difficult to keep clean. Women too are exposed to lots of yeast infections due to the bacteria kept in the folds of the foreskin.
I have not noticed any adverse difference in my enjoyment of sex since circumcision. One thing for sure is that my drawers don’t smell and they are clean. I have a four -ear old son and I am definitely going to have him go through the procedure. Keep the good work.’
Others like Simba wanted to know where to go to get it done. “Which doctors would you suggest I go see and can I know if I will heal quickly for I do not want to go for two months of pain without any activity?”
Micheal Krafft, A Kenyan who has been circumcised for years however had this warning: “I think we all realize that the problems are enormous and will take more people understanding and learning about HIV in schools and in clinics for it to start subsiding. I would not want anyone to think that getting circumcised is as good as using protection. It is a little similar to people thinking that if they are riding in a jeep or landrover that they will be safe in a car crash...the key is to drive safely and not get in a car crash.”
So so true and as a parting shot- I could not have summed it up better myself.
Circumcised or uncircumcised however- be responsible and protect yourself. And do not shut your mind to circumcision men- it is worth thinking seriously about.
Till next time, get me on beatrice@safaids.org.zw

